My Husband Hates Social Media

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About a month ago we sang happy birthday to my sweet two year old girl and she was sooo adorable. She clapped and sang along and had a huge smile on her face.

My first thought was…I can’t wait to show this to everyone on Instagram.

My excitement was soon squelched by my social media hating husband who said no way.  His exact words were, “I don’t want my greatest memories to be displayed for the entire world on the internet. Those are only for us. We don’t need to show everyone such wonderful family moments.”

Um… I live for showing everyone my greatest family moments.

And this is where we are intrinsically different.

There is not one part of him that understands the fascination with Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, etc. In fact, it completely baffles him. He is genuinely confused by selfies and self-proclamations of people’s random feelings on the internet. He would go so far as to tell you that all of this is ruining society. He is completely confused when he sees someone post a selfie sitting in their car. He’ll ask me, “Do they think they look that good that they need to take a picture and share it with the world?”

If I had to describe him using a character from a movie, I would say he closely resembles Robert De Niro from Meet the Parents. His most common phrase is trust no one. Whereas, I would describe me as a love everyone, be kind to your neighbor; kill them with kindness kind of gal.

He gets confused by the amount of information people put on Facebook about their lives. When he sees someone post photos when they are on vacation he sees it as announcing to the world that their home is vacant and unguarded.

There is a part of me that is actually very grateful that he hates social media. The kids and I are never competing with his Iphone or Ipad for his attention. I have friends who struggle with their husbands being on the internet a lot. It can be hard on a marriage when both are plugged in for long amounts of time. Instead, his lack of interest in social media helps me be on it less.

Nonetheless, I recently told him that social media was a necessary part of daily life and I think my reasons are pretty convincing.

Reasons Why Social Media is Necessary for This Wife

~Facebook is a way to keep in touch with those I love.hey girl

~As I meet new friends, I get to know them better through Facebook.

~I need Facebook to read random articles that make me cry, laugh, or get super angry.

~Without Facebook, how would I know what is trending in the world?

~Facebook lets me follow everything I love! It is a woman’s dream!

~Instagram just makes me happy. I love turning a normal photo into a work of art.

~Instagram helps me stay fashionable with all the fashion bloggers I follow.

~Pinterest helps me create food that he enjoys eating.

~Pinterest allows me to create virtual boards containing inspirational quotes and hilarious e-cards that can brighten my day.

Although he tolerates all my reasons for needing social media in my life, he is not completely convinced that it is necessary to survive in life. So, for now, you will just have to imagine us singing happy birthday to our baby girl because there is no way I am going to post it anytime soon.

Any other wives out there have husbands like this? If anyone actually says yes, how do you handle it?

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Tonya
Hi friends! My name is Tonya- a Midwestern girl who became a Rio Grande Valley transplant three years ago. I spent seven years as a second grade teacher. After completing my Master's in Reading and Literacy, I became a reading specialist for three years. After moving to south Texas, I became a stay-at-home mom for the first time. I've been married for ten years and we have three kids ages 9, 6, and 2. I love online shopping, Netflix, and running but nothing makes me happier than spending time with my family. Moving to the valley was a huge change but constant sunshine and great Mexican food has made it well worth it!

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  1. I don’t understand why people feel social media deserves more attention than you husband or wife and kids.. My wife is ALL about social media and I hate it. She can’t just sit on the couch with me at night and watch a movie with our loving family and not care about what Sally may or Joe Shmoe does it says on Facebook, snapchat or Twitter. Seems to me that this world and the society we live in going to garbage. All because of the damn internet and there is nothing wrong with staying connected to your loved ones online bc it IS easier, especially with long distant relatives and friends. But seriously are they more important to you than your own family. I mean come on people. Life isn’t about how many followers or friends you have. It’s about the happiness and quality of life in your IMMEDIATE family. Put your phones down and spend some real quality time with your husband, wife and kids. That’s why your with them right? Because you enjoy their company? Right?!?!

  2. Hi,
    Just had this conversation with my hubby. He doesn’t want me posting anything even remotely personal-including the picture of the pretty flowers he gave me.
    Ugh!
    I guess I won’t post them and will consider his feelings about the whole thing.
    It’s tricky though when I am so excited about special things like that and he doesn’t want me to share it.
    Guess I’ll stick to me only and not post anything else.
    Thanks for your blog it’s a good one.
    Shelley

  3. Hi Tonya,
    I read your blog and I am in the same situation as you. But its extremely annoyingand and frustrating when all i want him to do is just like my posts because i am extremely active on facebook and instagram. I juat expect some appreciation from him for my pics on insta. That’s all i want from him. But he refuses to open an account and we end up fighting every time this topic comes up. I’m extremely frustrated with this habit of his and looking to find a solution… :(it is very annoying and angers me a lot.. 🙁

  4. My name is Esther and I am married with kids. My husband hates to be posted on social media just because he doesn’t want to be seen in public domain. I don’t do it frequently, just once in a while. He complains a lot. For him, I can’t post our kids and him, but myself and other stuffs.

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