About a month ago we sang happy birthday to my sweet two year old girl and she was sooo adorable. She clapped and sang along and had a huge smile on her face.
My first thought was…I can’t wait to show this to everyone on Instagram.
My excitement was soon squelched by my social media hating husband who said no way. His exact words were, “I don’t want my greatest memories to be displayed for the entire world on the internet. Those are only for us. We don’t need to show everyone such wonderful family moments.”
Um… I live for showing everyone my greatest family moments.
And this is where we are intrinsically different.
There is not one part of him that understands the fascination with Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, etc. In fact, it completely baffles him. He is genuinely confused by selfies and self-proclamations of people’s random feelings on the internet. He would go so far as to tell you that all of this is ruining society. He is completely confused when he sees someone post a selfie sitting in their car. He’ll ask me, “Do they think they look that good that they need to take a picture and share it with the world?”
If I had to describe him using a character from a movie, I would say he closely resembles Robert De Niro from Meet the Parents. His most common phrase is trust no one. Whereas, I would describe me as a love everyone, be kind to your neighbor; kill them with kindness kind of gal.
He gets confused by the amount of information people put on Facebook about their lives. When he sees someone post photos when they are on vacation he sees it as announcing to the world that their home is vacant and unguarded.
There is a part of me that is actually very grateful that he hates social media. The kids and I are never competing with his Iphone or Ipad for his attention. I have friends who struggle with their husbands being on the internet a lot. It can be hard on a marriage when both are plugged in for long amounts of time. Instead, his lack of interest in social media helps me be on it less.
Nonetheless, I recently told him that social media was a necessary part of daily life and I think my reasons are pretty convincing.
Reasons Why Social Media is Necessary for This Wife
~As I meet new friends, I get to know them better through Facebook.
~I need Facebook to read random articles that make me cry, laugh, or get super angry.
~Without Facebook, how would I know what is trending in the world?
~Facebook lets me follow everything I love! It is a woman’s dream!
~Instagram just makes me happy. I love turning a normal photo into a work of art.
~Instagram helps me stay fashionable with all the fashion bloggers I follow.
~Pinterest helps me create food that he enjoys eating.
~Pinterest allows me to create virtual boards containing inspirational quotes and hilarious e-cards that can brighten my day.
Although he tolerates all my reasons for needing social media in my life, he is not completely convinced that it is necessary to survive in life. So, for now, you will just have to imagine us singing happy birthday to our baby girl because there is no way I am going to post it anytime soon.